I realized today that if we move back to the US in November, that means we only have about 6 months left here.
And then I realized that, um, we're gonna have to move. And what an incredibly huge pain in the ass the process is bound to be. And OH MY GOD maybe we should stay longer just to put that off longer...
It wasn't too bad moving out here, since it was just the 2 of us. And with just the 2 of us, it's not a big deal to spend one month in our old apartment with hardly any furniture in it, and another month in our new house with hardly any furniture in it, while waiting for our stuff to get shipped over. And spending four weekends in a row doing not much more than getting ourselves and our home set up. And going around to buy a car. Ect, etc, etc.
Then you throw a baby into the mix. Right.
Our loosely-thought-of plan is to have the movers come hopefully the day before we'd fly and pack up the house and start the shipment. That will take 2 months to arrive. I don't know if we'll want to take all our furniture, we'll probably have stuff we'll want to get rid of, and basically anything that plugs into a wall and isn't dual voltage will need to go. We'll also need to sell the car and Zach's scooter, preferrably also well-timed so we don't have to rent a car for long. We hopefully stay that last night at a hotel or friend's place, then fly to California (which will be a whole other mess-- we'll want bulkhead seats to fly with Donovan, but will need to have one of us-- or a helpful friend/family member?- sit with Sierra b/c the cat will need to go under the seat in front of the passenger) and Zach's company should be getting us a corporate apartment until our stuff arrives. Which will hopefully accept cats, and that Sierra won't get all whacked out by. Then we'll need to find an apartment, buy 2 cars, find a pediatrician (hopefully some local mommy friends will be able to help us out with that one), etc etc etc. While taking care of a 9-month-old, who may himself be all whacked out by all the changes.
I am kind of afraid.
Hopefully we'll be able to enlist help from people to make the process a bit less overwhelming. We'll see. I will say that, again, I really am looking forward to going back. Switzerland has been great, but I'm looking forward to getting to hang out with our friends, meet their own babies, go to farmer's markets, enjoy the glorious California weather, GO TO TARGET, be able to buy things for Donovan without it becoming a huge production involving shipping items to multiple addresses and taking weeks to arrive. Not to mention being a mere 3hr flight away from family (or even just an hour drive, depending on if Jen's still in SF!!).
In other news... D's been having trouble staying asleep. We gave up and skipped his last nap of the day b/c he kept waking up within minutes of being put down, and it took a while to get him down at bedtime, too. He'll be so sleepy, falling asleep almost as soon as I pick him back up, but then waking up as soon as, or within 10 minutes of, putting him in his bed. I'm wondering if he's having trouble adjusting to sleeping in his own room full-time? I don't know. He still seems to be in a pretty good mood most of the time, so I guess he's ok, but especially after reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child I'm all freaked out about him becoming sleep deprived. Though perhaps I should just follow the advice from Criss and Cherise and stop reading the books. Information overload may be part of the problem here...
We are here and ready to help you with your move. I told Zach the other day to just let me know what you need. Also, I have found a pediatrician that I love so far (will let you know what I think of him when we are actually using him).....he came highly recommended though.
ReplyDeleteYou can read the books, just don't beat yourself up with them.
ReplyDeleteAnd, to make the move easier, leave Donovan here with me when you come home in June. I'll take care of him until November - and that solves all your problems.
I don't envy you and the move- but I am sure it will all turn out fine. Sleep has been sucha big issue for me since Eliza was born. I hope D starts sleeping better for you.
ReplyDelete:) I have a confession though, I still read a lot of books. It's what I do, I'm a book worm and a researcher. I can't help myself. But I try to remind myself that A doesn't read the books too, so she doesn't know what she's 'supposed' to do. And the more books you read, you find they all contradict eachother, so it doesn't matter!
ReplyDeleteTry not to think about the move too much. When you have a set plan, then you can sort it out. It'll go easier than you think!
Ha! I thought the same thing when we moved back to the US...maybe we should just stay here so we don't have to deal with moving...but Target beckoned (oh yeah, and being closer to family) so we soildered on. What we did is get a pack 'n play for Ellie to sleep in while we waited for her crib to arrive, as well as a cheap tabletop changing station type thing from Wal-Mart, cheap bouncer, etc. Of course, at 9 months, D may be too old for that stuff anyway. Other than the time adjustment, I'm willing to bet it won't be as bad as you think! More hectic than bad, particularly for the cat...
ReplyDeleteAs far as the book, yeah, you can make yourself crazy with it. After sequestering myself indoors for about two weeks when Ellie was that age trying to force her to nap, I decided to take a hiatus from the books and the Internet and give us both a break. And then I kid you not, a week or two later, the kid started napping on her own. Don't kill yourself over it--it will happen.
Man, sorry for the lonnnng comment!
Trust me, I have the same feelings! We are moving back to the US in September and while I can't wait, I can wait for the packing. And the logistics. And the empty apartment. And the stuff we have to buy over there. And everything! But it will work out, it always does!
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