I've been initiating potty training D for a little over a year now, just working off and on. I've made a point to make it a very low-pressure deal-- if he was interested, great! If not, I haven't pushed. I've heard way too many stories of potty training becoming a power struggle that leaves everyone involved a frustrated mess and am trying very hard not to fall into that trap. We've had a few successes along the way, but then either through me not following through consistently or him losing interest, it never really gets very far. I've been fine with this so far... sure, it'd be nice to have the process be done with sooner, but I don't want to rush him if he's not ready.
Except lately I'm starting to feel more anxious about it all. I know he's only 2.5yrs old, which is "young" as far as typical potty training of boys in the US. But, I'm looking ahead at the coming months/year and starting to feel the pressure. In 3 months I'll have a baby, seriously cutting down on my available time/energy/patience. I've also found a montessori school that I love and want him to start going to sometime in the spring/summer. I think he'll love the experience of going to school, and it'd also give me a chance to have one-on-one time with the baby. But, he has to be potty trained before he can start. And then there's how everyone says to potty train in the summer b/c it's warmer and so more comfortable for wearing fewer clothes, but temps are already starting to cool so that opportunity is quickly slipping away for this year...
And so I'm caught b/c I'm not quite sure how to proceed from here on out. Right now we have potty chairs scattered around the house, along with child seats to go in the big toilets in our bathrooms. About once a day I'll ask him to sit on the potty (which he currently says no to every time). He's very familiar with the process, he talks about peeing and pooping in the potty, has been coming into the bathroom with me ever since he could move on his own.... but seems to have little interest in using the toilet himself. I don't know if I should keep up being so laid-back about it, or if he needs more pushing... but am afraid if I do try harder he'll resist more and it'll become this Big Deal.
And maybe I just need to remember that he's the only one who can decide when he's ready to use the toilet and that I have little control over the situation. All along I've had this idea of how nice it'd be for him to train early. When we moved him from his crib back to a bed at 18 months, part of my reasoning was that he just seemed so grown up in so many ways, that a "baby" crib didn't seem to "fit." I'm getting that same sense now, where he seems to grown up and so capable that it feels odd to still have to lie him down to change his diaper. But, this is also one of the many lessons of parenthood-- things don't always go as you planned/imagined, and you're not the one holding the reigns. Maybe I should just trust in D that he'll let me know when it's time.
Anyone have thoughts/words of wisdom to impart? I think I could use them.