tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6568229.post5248542273436761501..comments2024-02-18T22:05:54.854-08:00Comments on life is good: wonders & worriesMarcyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00792375260633790983noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6568229.post-87038273386105055832007-07-18T15:22:00.000-07:002007-07-18T15:22:00.000-07:00I read somewhere that the Chinese character for MO...I read somewhere that the Chinese character for MOTHER has the characters for LOVE and PAIN in it! Isn't that the truth!!<BR/>Being a mother is hard. I know, I am one of a teenager so my battles are now starting!<BR/>I also have my share of battles with my mother who lives down the way from me. She is fabulous but she soo often upsets me with her advice. My mom also doesn't know how to stop herself! I just take many many many deep breaths! <BR/>On another note, Glad you are having nice weather.SabineMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02686426828860840308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6568229.post-19254349737309389182007-07-14T15:02:00.000-07:002007-07-14T15:02:00.000-07:00I think she definitely does. She needs to let go ...I think she definitely does. She needs to let go of the expectations she feels her siblings and parents are putting on her, and she also needs to realize her children have grown up into ADULTS. She needs to LET IT GO - we are not her problem anymore. The time for her to influence our actions and decisions was when we were younger. She needs to trust that she did a good enough job then, and let us live our own lives now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6568229.post-32082065603539345892007-07-14T01:33:00.000-07:002007-07-14T01:33:00.000-07:00Unfortunately I don't know what I could say... she...Unfortunately I don't know what I could say... she knows that she says things the wrong way, and she doesn't want to hurt people, but doesn't seem to be able to figure out how to stop herself. <BR/><BR/>Maybe mom needs therapy.Marcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00792375260633790983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6568229.post-85255350951413908282007-07-13T18:40:00.000-07:002007-07-13T18:40:00.000-07:00The conversations/yelling matches I have with her ...The conversations/yelling matches I have with her always end with her telling me I'm right, and with her victimizing herself - she's just trying to help, but saying things the wrong way... this is the way she was raised... she has always been so supportive of me... oh, she's so proud of me - even though the conversation was nothing but her telling me what a big, terrible, horrible mistake I'm making. I used to chalk it up to guilt-tripping, which was/is her favorite hobby, but the victimization might be more than her trying to get more sympathy. You may be right that there's something else there... but I don't think anybody here can make her see that. You are the Golden Child - happily and financially-successfully married, about to give her a grandchild - she might listen to you, since you're not a jobless, divorced failure. (Yes, she uses that against me in every conversation - for a while, "the divorce" was a reason for anything and everything, and whenever I make a decision she doesn't like, she brings up my lack of judgement in the past.)<BR/><BR/>Coming back from the reunion, if it was as "great" as she said, she should have been relaxed and happy, but she threw a hissy fit with Lindsey - that is a pretty bad sign. If she's going to listen to anybody, I bet it'd be you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com